We all have seen the stores littered with pinks and reds, chocolates, gifts, flowers, as well as cards, so it must be true… Valentine’s Day is approaching. This day can be many things: positive, negative, neutral, and anyway in-between. We could be in a romantic relationship that is thriving. This day could also be the day that we get to …
Coming Back
It has been a long time, almost a year, since I posted anything. So much has changed since then. So much. I closed my practice in Cambridge, MA. My husband and I packed up our apartment, two kids, and two cats. We moved 1,500 miles. I reopened my practice in Pensacola, FL and that’s only half of it. I still …
There is no choice but to be ok.
My last post was about feeling crazy. Can you tell that things are getting to me? I always wonder whether I should put myself out there like that but then I think “What the hell? Nothing wrong with being honest.” However, I don’t want to send the message that there is no answer. There is. For as terrible as …
To feel crazy…
Have you ever felt crazy? Like you couldn’t trust your own senses or assessment of reality? There are many different ways to make it to that awful place. Motherhood. Anxiety. Eating disorders. Depression. The list goes on and on. The results always seems to be the same. There are thoughts that don’t seem to belong to you, images …
Coping Skills: Reality and Expectations
How many times has a client walked into a therapists office, only to be disappointed by the conversation of coping skills. We have it all the time and sooooooooo many of my clients tell me they don’t work or that they can use them for a while but slip back into behaviors. Why? Why does this happen? It’s a big …
Basics of Prioritizing
How often do you wish for more hours in a day? There is always so much to do. Another room to be cleaned, another deadline to be met. It never stops. Unfortunately, more time in the day would only make the problem worse. You would just take on more responsibility, expect more if yourself and others. The only …
Who likes “the process” of change?
No one. The answer is no one. Change is a huge, time consuming, emotionally draining process that everyone hates and no one wants to see. We want a magic trick. We are all supposed to change and grow effortlessly and seamlessly. Whenever a problem arises, we are supposed to disappear into a cocoon somewhere and emerge perfectly …
To be the last therapist
This article was supposed to be about how to be “the last therapist a client needs” but I have realized that there is no way to define that mystical creature. Therapists always dream of being the last one. We want to be the one who solves the problems and helps healing happen. How many of my clients have seen multiple …
The relief of commitment
There have been two commitments I have made in my life. The first was too recovery and the second was two my husband. Both were utterly terrifying but both have made me feel more secure than I ever dreamed possible. I have always been an anxious person and for many years used the avoidance behaviors of an eating disorder to …
Tips for supporting someone with an eating disorder
Family members and friends always wonder how to help their loved one who is suffering with an eating disorder. Here are a tips. Tip 1: Express love unconditionally. The impulses of a loved one is typically to express love and concern in the same breath. It’s natural and understandable. It’s also risky. Concern often comes across as controlling and directive. Instead, …